BREAKING BARRIERS AND BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS: OUTSIDE OF THESE PRISON GATES (PART 1) BY:TITU$ BANK$
Unfortunately, there is no manual or guide book to help those,who are in our lives or come into our lives to prepare them for this journey we’re facing while being incarcerated. Most relationships (Family, Friends ,and Significant Others) dwindle away over time and become memories, but there is a small percentage that literally stands the test of time. “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (GENESIS 2:18). FINDING INSPIRATION, MOTIVATION, EMPOWERMENT, AND VALUE FROM THOSE WHO ARE INCARCERATED:
Opening up to someone new can be difficult, because we all fear starting over and trying something new or different. However, we should take time to reflect on ourselves before we emerge into a new friendship or relationship. Sometimes we get caught up in temporary love affairs that come with hurt and heartache when it’s all said and done. You must not let your past relationships effect your future plans to move forward. So often we invest our time and energy into the wrong people only to look back regretting the time wasted. At that moment, we finally realize the value of time that has been shared with someone that was not beneficial to our future. If you have Family, Friends, Significant others, or you are interested in communicating with someone that is incarcerated, I encourage you to take some time out of your day and reach out to them. Motivation is very important, because our actions make the most sense when we have support to fuel our goals. It will be to our benefit if we have THE SUPPORT and BELIEF of those who are on the other side of the gates. “Sometimes our struggles in life, will place people in our lives that will push us over the edge, but God will bring those special people in our lives that will pull us up, and away from the edge.” (STEREOTYPES)
There is a misperception about the Men and Women that are incarcerated. Most people think that we are all users and manipulators that take advantage of others. The most egregious stereotypes are those that lean on ethnic or different racial upbringings. The depiction of the incarceration experience through the lenses of Hollywood entails stereotypical images. For example, the predator verses prey. Not all prisoners engage in certain acts such as homosexuality, continuous criminal minded behavior, being womanizers, manipulators, sociopaths, con-artist, thugs, misfits, or lazy individuals. But in the eyes of society, we’re all treated and looked at that same way. “WE ENCOUNTER MANY DEFEATS BUT WE MUST NOT BE DEFEATED.”(MAYA ANGELOU) In some cases these stereotypes are in fact true, but not all. For example, most prisoners such as myself, who are using their time to self-educate and move forward from their past misfortunes and bad decisions .As a man, I want to right my wrongs and continue to do more good deeds that will outweigh the bad choices I have made in my past. “Most people are living in an illusion based on someone else’s beliefs”(Jen Sincero). I am witnessing the different behaviors in prisoners that are able to communicate with Family, Friends, and Significant others verses the prisoners with no outside support. I am only speaking on my observation and my experience, because I feel inspired, motivated, empowered, and loved when I am able to communicate with my family and friends. I am around guys, who have no contact with people on the outside .These individuals are miserable, hateful, sad, envious, and angry. We call them forecasters because they always rain on someone else’s parade of joy or piece of happiness that is provided through visits, mail, phone conversations, and future plans of success. “Happiness is real when shared”(Carl Johnson McCandless). During these difficult circumstances it’s hard for an individual to be him or herself, everyone literally has a mask on (before Covid-19). Vulnerability is a sign of weakness in prison, everything and everyone is hard, so barriers are formed and genuine relationships are not built with the right people outside of these prison gates. As a result, the possible turns into the impossible, meaning: Individuals limit themselves from many things such as help and assists from others. In the months to come, I will be writing a five part article on Breaking Barriers and Building Relationships with the help and assistance provided by Thoughts Beyond the Wall. I am truly happy and grateful for this opportunity to share my thoughts with an audience outside of prison through this amazing outlet. I also would like to thank Joseph X and Camryn for this opportunity to be a part of this project. I applaud all those who support Family, Friends, and Significant Others that are incarcerated.
This is a PLATFORM for Myself, as well as others like Myself to further their CAREERS and EDUCATION beyond INCARCERATION.
As a Man, even in these current circumstances and conditions I am still pursuing my DREAMS.I am working on becoming a PRODUCTIVE/PROLIFIC WRITER by improving my craft and work ethic. I aspire to be a BESTSELLING AUTHOR that will ENTERTAIN,INFORM,INSPIRE,MOTIVATE,EMPOWER,AND ADD VALUE to all those,who wish to CORRESPOND and READ my material. “SUCCESS ISN’T EASY YET ITS NOT IMPOSSIBLE.” REDEMPTION,REBUILDING,RESTORING,REWRITING,REWARDING AND REMINDING society that we can change and become REHABILITATED by REESTABLISHING ourselves back into society with the proper ASSISTANCE and RESOURCES provided along this journey.
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